Monthly Archives: April 2015

Release Control



Hanging out with my friends discussing dating, marriage, etc.

Janae: You will be married next year!

Me: (rolls eyes) To who? Where he at? Where am I meeting this man?

Janae: Dude why you always gotta know the logistics! Why can’t you just receive what I’m saying!? Just forget it!


My name is Kiara and I like to be in control! There I said it! For as long as I can remember I’ve liked being in control and having control over every situation. It’s not in a way that’s over bearing or manipulating, I just always like to be prepared and know what’s coming next!

As I’m getting older and having a semi quarter life crisis, I can sometimes get myself into a frenzy! Thoughts go through my mind like ‘Why am I not in a career’ ‘I have all these degress for what?’ ‘What is my current job doing to help me grow?’ ‘I haven’t traveled like I want to’, ‘Am I just living or am I alive?’ I could go on and on forever, I always need to know the answer to what is happening next, where will I be in a year, 5 years, 10 years but then I had to take a step back and tell myself “YOU AIN’T GOT THE ANSWERS KIARA!” (Kanye Shrug). But you know who does have the answers? My Heavenly Father! And boy am I glad that He does!

I am in the process of really learning to let go and allow His will to be done in my life. I know that He has a perfect plan for me and everything will work out for my good! Luke 12:25 is so spot on when it says Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?

Honestly, what is my worrying going to do? It’s not going to help me in understanding my purpose. All that it will do is push me further into a frenzy and push me away from God because I’m trying to take the reins and worrying will begin to have control over me.

It is important to always change your perspective…

God may have you working where you are because there is someone one there who doesn’t know Him and will come to know Him through you!

He may have you in this single season, because your future spouse is still being built and made whole!

There is always a reason to the season that you’re in so we must stop trying to take over and live in the moment God has placed us in, pray and ask Him what He wants you to learn from it, who He wants you to touch. It can’t do anything but grow, stretch and prepare you for the great things he has in store for your future. So I urge you to put your trust in Him, chill out and know that His plans are the best plans.

What are you still trying to control in your life that you need to give to God?